Thursday, December 31, 2009

Food into 2010


Okay, I am totally going to do a "Year in Review" maybe tomorrow when Wil is home. However, I just finished planning meals for the next week, and I'm thinking I will share those with you. I'm really going to try to be very aware of how much I am spending and be a good steward of my "grocery funds." They don't have coupons here (that I know of) so it isn't as fun, but sometimes groceries have good sales. I am not sure how this meal plan will work money-wise, I may have to make some changes.

(Is this totally boring to you?)

Dinner, roughly:
Tonight: Baked Ziti (I will share this recipe later because it is SO good and so easy.)
Tomorrow: Barbecue by Wil, turnip greens, black-eyed peas
Saturday: Leftovers
Sunday: Creamy Chicken Enchiladas (We like our Mexican on Sundays.)
Monday: Breakfast for Dinner. Pancakes anyone?
Tuesday: Aimee's Chicken (found on another blog, looks good and easy)
Wednesday: Steak Balsalmico (from current the Best of Southern Living Magazine)
Thursday: Couscous and Lamb with feta and other goodies I will make up as I go.
Friday: Spaghetti
Saturday: leftovers
Sunday: Tacos

whew. Picture random veggies with these main items. I'm not so great at doing side dishes. I wish I was. I just get bored. It is usually steamed broccoli, english peas, maybe carrots, maybe salad. Do you have some easy sides you can share? Keyword: EASY. Maybe you have some delicious recipes you are cooking this week? That 3 year olds will like.

What are you eating this week?

and can I tell you how much I love the MomAgenda for having a neat little space for "dinner?"



Wednesday, December 30, 2009

What I'm Doing Now...

Thanks Eli!

...just reading these [imported] beauties.

{Did I tell you that when Wiley sees the picture of Taylor Swift on People, he tells you that she is his girlfriend? Sometime he runs around possessively holding it to his chest. I kid you not.}

What are your favorite magazines? Are you sorely going to miss Cottage Living like me? Or were you more of a Southern Accents kind of gal? Perhaps you prefer the classic Sports Illustrated so you know what your hubby or boyfriend is talking about. Do you like reading about how unique and fantastic Alabama is (as if you didn't already know it was the bee's knees.) in Thicket?

(come on...tell me. i know you are out there reading this.)

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Dr. Google


I am still in shock over this one.

Let me preface this by saying Dr. Google is a nice person was smile-y and kind when I was in her office. I let it go that she was young because after all, aren't people always telling me how young I am. And don't I hate that? So I'm not going to attack the person here, I'm more attacking the system. Attack is too harsh though. What I really want to do is just INFORM you. Particularly in light of the recent legislation.

This news I just have to tell you. And if you want to tell your friends, please do.

I am not into politics, I leave that to my friend Paige who is kind enough to give me the layman's version of what is going on in politics since I have trouble following. I realize healthcare is not perfect the way it is now. But let's look at what you could expect if you do get nationalized healthcare back home.

Mediocracy.

I go into my doctor today (not really mine because it was my first time seeing this doctor) to hear about some blood work I had done a couple weeks ago. (No big deal, mind you, just low iron, so don't get worried, Mom.) She read my test results (that I have a copy of at home) pointed to the average to the right of my result and told me if it was normal or not (thanks, I can do that).

Let's keep in mind that you have 10 minutes with the doctor. That is not a lot of time. I found this out in my first appointment with NHS.

Can you imagine my surprise when she pulled up Internet Explorer and GOOGLED one of the tests via a pediatric site to explain what the function of said body part was and thus what the test indicated?

Okay, I thought, she must just use this site as like her desk reference. Maybe the whole practice has this bookmarked and uses it. I'll let this one go. Weird, but letting it go.

But then, when she GOOGLED another test (a basic one, mind you, and one that I understand to be relatively routine in checking for) to make sure my results were normal, I was FLOORED. I was even more shocked when she didn't go immediately to a site like the first time when I thought it was her reference. No, she scrolled down, reading those blurbs telling you what you might expect to find on that site, found one she liked and clicked. Again, I was FLOORED! What would you do if this happened to you?!

This was not okay. I quickly finished up with her, and left in a state of shock. She GOOGLED a test result. In front of me. I could have done that. Wait, I did do that. I did that last night with those same results.

I am in constant admiration of my friends who want to be doctors. They just finished their first semester, studying I would expect for some of the hardest exams they have ever taken. I have no doubt that they will do great things. But one thing I KNOW they will not do is this: GOOGLE a test result. In front of a patient. I understand you might use google to research something later. I understand you might need to look up the average test result in a book, or whatever, but surely you do that before the patient enters the room. If only for your own pride. You can't have everything in your head. But you shouldn't have to google something to explain a simple test to a patient.

So, America. Here I am living in England. We have the NHS. It is government healthcare provided through really high taxes. It is "free." Anyone can walk into a NHS clinic, show their residency in its coverage area and in our case, a visa, and receive its healthcare.

I'm sure there are doctors in NHS who would not google a test result. I hope this is the exception. But nonetheless, you should know what your congressmen and senators are voting for, and what you can expect from those actions.

Do you remember that saying "Nothing in life is free" or "There is no free lunch." How about "You get what you pay for?"

This is what we are headed for: Dr. Google. I got what I paid for.

Monday, December 28, 2009

Christmas, in review

This Christmas, we enjoyed hosting Wil's family here in London. It was really great to show them around the city, and to have family in town since we decided we wouldn't be coming back home for the holidays. Here are a few glimpses of what we did...

Homemade egg-nog via iPhone. I am not a fan of egg-nog and had actually never seen egg nog consumed in such large quantities (David) until marrying Wil. We didn't find it sold here so we (they) got resourceful and made their own.

Meanwhile, Wiley picked his nose.

Too many cooks in the kitchen?

Wiley made delicious cookies! (With T's help!)

Oh, and we opened some presents! Santa brought Wiley a scooter, helmet, and a few other toys. He has loved playing the classics like Hi, Ho Cherrio and Don't Spill the Beans along with a new favorite LeapFrog Leapster 2 game which was amazing to have on our train ride the other day.

I hope all of you had a wonderful Christmas with those you love!

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

oh, hi there!







not really any words today. just this sweet face that is wishing you a merry christmas!

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Christmas is coming!


Look how few days we have left! (I'm a day behind. Oops.)
Does that make you panic or really happy?


And we saw Santa!


The greenery is out!
Along with my new poster (so cheaply framed, and not as cute as it could be).

How are you preparing your house for the big day?


But more importantly...I'm thinking of how I'm preparing my heart for the big day.

But Mary treasured up all these things, pondering them in her heart.
Luke 2:19

Friday, December 18, 2009

I can't believe I'm showing you this...

But. I have a friend who is having trouble believing my recent purchase.
And another who has joined me in getting this particular article of clothing because she can actually pull this off. And I'm pretty sure everyone else will just laugh at this.
(I'm such a good friend, swallowing my pride to give you a laugh.)

So, put your judgments aside for like 2 minutes.

I bought faux leather leggings (H&M). Rather my mom did if we are being honest here. (Thanks mom!) My sister supported the decision. My mom thinks they look like plastic. We told her they were really cool. But I think she would have rather gifted me the fake ones over the real thing. I wouldn't care to sweat in the real thing either. Have you seen when Ross wears them in Friends (ignore odd subtitles).

I also got a shimmery dress to go with it. Pale pink is so in right now, right? And sparkles too.

I wore that outfit to see a play with my family over Thanksgiving. I only wished I had booties to go with it. Can you believe I'm saying that too? First converse low tops, now faux leather, sequins, and booties!

I am not a fashionista and will not pretend to be one. If this is awful, maybe email me and tell me gently. But if you don't, just know I will be trotting around London in this get-up, not really caring what they think because well, I don't know any of them. So to them, I will be a pretend-wanna-be-fashionista. But to you, I will remain clad in J.Crew basics, Gap, blue jeans, sweaters, and in the winter, my Uggs.

I'll leave the fashion to my sister.
(And to this girl who had better wear her leggings to a certain Christmas party tonight!)

(and for some legit fashion friday, check out flower blog!)

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

How to Stay Warm in London

You could wear this...
or you could wear this...

{what you don't see is the pajama top that he wore all day long. why change just to go out to dinner?}

Want an action shot?

Spotted: Superman walking down street in London.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Christmas: London Style

Instead of tying a nice Carolina grown tree
to the top of my Tahoe for all to see,

Wil found himself holding on the bus,
a spiky Nordic tree, and he didn't even cuss!


Our stockings were hung on our chimney with care,
And we hope Santa delivers to London...a city so fair(??)!

Our tree how it pricks! Our tree how it sheds!
We hope on Christmas our tree won't be dead!

Thanks to Maddie and Kyle, ornaments we did find,
including a picture of them, they are so kind!

And of imported Rotel and Velveeta we did eat,
because this cheese dip cannot be beat!


Then, off to Church we did go,
The story of baby Jesus to be shown.

And Wiley in his cotton balls,
a right jolly ole' sheep.
Would sing with his friends, so loudly they called,
"Glory to God! Glory to God! Glory to God in the Highest!"




Friday, December 11, 2009

Eat your veggies


Maybe I'm getting poster crazy, but I found this gem at the Imperial War Museum for 4.88 GBP! Wouldn't that be fun in a kitchen. It was "produced for the Ministry of Food. The poster was designed to encourage people to eat vegetables which contain Vitamins A, C and K, as well as iron, protein and zinc, all necessary in a healthy balanced diet."

More veggies, please!

Keep Calm and Carry On

How fantastic are these posters? They sell them at the War Museum/Churchill War Rooms here in London but in red. I saw them while blog-hopping at Little Green Notebook who got the picture from Cara. (I don't know either, but I want to make sure they get credit!)

How cute is that? And who doesn't need that reminder during early morning feedings and screaming babies? I know I need that reminder daily with Wiley! And then I clicked on the etsy shop where they are from...sfgirlbybay and they come in beautiful colors! With free shipping worldwide!! And since I am in the market for some sort of wall art...wouldn't this be great in Wiley's room or even in our den...


I'm really liking this navy one. Basic I know. But since I'm not sure where it would go, I think this would work anywhere.

And there are many more! How great would a pink one be in a little girls room?
{click photos to go to the etsy shop! don't forget...free shipping!}

Monday, December 7, 2009

Who else see the leprechaun say yeah!

That's right. Click that title. You're gonna laugh. I couldn't help it. It was too easy.

I know it is Christmas, not St. Patrick's Day. But we were in Ireland this past weekend.

It was beautiful, even if it was raining. And while Ireland appears to be a small island, if you want to drive from east to west, double that driving time because there isn't an I-20 in Ireland. More like narrow winding roads. With sheep crossing randomly. With a red-headed shepherd. I kid you not. (I was this close to getting out to ask to pet a sheep. If only there had been a safe place to pull off the narrow, winding road.)

We met up with Stewart from Wake and the guys played Royal County Down. It was a links course so it looks nothing like what we were used to. It was also freezing. Again, not something we are used to. Wiley and I headed in after hole 5 to warm soup, coffee, and hot chocolate. We camped out in the lounge/dining room for a few hours, and Billy who worked there couldn't have been any nicer. I think Royal County Down is a kinda big deal in the golf world, but the people working there are so down to earth and nice. Maybe it was because noone in their right mind travels to Ireland to play golf in December and we were the only ones there. Either way, if you are going to Ireland, check this place out!

Then we drove forever to Galway. In the dark. It was a long day. Did I mention we flew into Dublin that morning at 7:30 ish. Oh, and we left our flat at 4:30 a.m. Yeah. Coffee. and a lot of it. Sweet Wil was driving too! On the wrong side of the road! I was so proud, and amazingly enough not too scared. I think I get more nervous when he drives at home than when he drove in Ireland.

Galway was good. We drove from there to see the Cliffs of Moher. Beautiful. Freezing. Raining. Windy beyond belief. Stroller almost took off a couple of times.


The drive back was so pretty and along the coast...

we found this pretty castle/ruin. I guess you don't see these along I-20. After another night in Galway and celebrating the Tide's victory (via laptop), we headed to Dublin in the morning. We actually saw sun along the way. It almost blinded us. I started peeling off clothes, hoping to sunbathe through the windows. I'm kidding. But I did feel like an animal coming out of hibernation and seeing the sun again. "Whoa, sun. That is too bright. What? There is a thin cloud in front of you and you are still too bright? Agh. Been in London too long!" Really. It was hazy, winter sun. You would have thought it was reflecting of white beaches on the Gulf with how bright it felt. Regardless, I was so thankful to have a clear, sunny day.

Yeah, pretty sure that was the perfect ending to a whole lot of driving, cold weather, and such. Did you notice that Wiley's head is on his chest? Yep, he had too much Guinness. We had to cut him off. I kid. This was before the tour. You should have seen him after it. I kid again. He was exhausted from riding in the car, I suppose. And those Guinness people. They are serious about their beer. I asked for a pale Guinness. I thought they were going to kill me. I kid again. I asked Wil about that, and he said they might hurt me if I asked them that. I actually didn't mind my pint of Guinness at the end of learning about Brew Masters, yeast, barley, water, and hops. Mmmm. Hops. (And Puck, I thought about you the entire time.)

So that was Ireland. Nice people. Pretty scenery. Thick Beer. Lots of sheep. And no leprechauns. They are all in Crichton, Alabama.

Where da gold at?!

Thursday, December 3, 2009

I have the best friends.

Period. End of story.

Simply. The. Best.

{and not just because of what I'm about to show you}

so allow me to blubber on a bit about how fantastic! brilliant! clever! they are.

These gems were waiting for me at the bottom of the stairs today.


Let's back it up so you get the full effect.Yesterday was a really rough day for me. Lonely, yes. Far away from anything familiar, yes. This isn't what I had in mind to be doing after graduation, yes. You name it. It was there in all of its yucky, ickiness.

And then today. Oh, today.
Post- TK Maxx (European TJ Maxx) and Costco run with my neighbor, I come back to open this mysterious package with Laura's return address. Contents read: 2 CDs, 8 Letters. Interesting.

I open it up, along with my Diet Coke. And I'm sorry y'all but the tears just came. If I didn't think I would bore you to death with it all, I would tell you every little thing that was in that package, every little written word, that whether they realized it or not when they wrote these in October, spoke so deeply to my heart that I put my head in my hands and was simply so grateful.

{excerpts}
Jesus I am resting resting in the joy of what thou art, I am finding out the greatness of they loving heart.

Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9

Joey: It's all London, baby! Here we go.
Chandler: You got your passport?
Joey:Yeah, in my third drawer in my dresser. You don't want to lose that.
(friends)

Ryan:I don't think you understand jeopardy
Michael: Oh right, sorry. What is, we're fine.
(office)

And so much more. Pictures, seeds, CDs, and the kindest, most comforting words from the most familiar handwritings, signed from my wonderful friends.

Y'all. I am so overwhelmed with your thoughtfulness and kindness. The timing of this amazing gift could not have been any better. It really couldn't have. Thank you Laura for organizing this. Thank you to everyone for taking time to write me, send pictures, updates on life, funny quotes, and just sweet encouragement and love from across the pond. I will read, and re-read these letters over and over again.

[insert cheesy quote about friends that we wrote across our binders in 7th grade]

Y'all mean more to me than you can possibly know. I love you all so much. I am so thankful that I was at Wake Forest because had my life not changed so dramatically, I would never have become so close to all of you. There aren't adequate words to express my feelings and thankfulness for y'all.

other than...
He is so good.

xoxoxo, from across the pond.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

rant and rave

Let's talk about London culture for a bit shall we? (I am 1/3 way through my coffee so let's hope I can keep this competent.)

How about we start with customer service. How about we talk about how is does not exist here. Not at all. None. Walk into a store, expect someone to acknowledge your presence, maybe ask how you want to spend the money burning a hole in your pocket (this is hypothetical, obviously)? Don't hold your breath.

Now, I don't want to have a conversation with someone in a store that I don't know (or maybe I do...maybe I am desperate to talk to someone other than a 3 year old...just kidding...sort of), but at least say "Hi, May I help you find anything?" I worked in retail, and we always had to speak to the customer. Half the time we knew the customer outside of the store, but still. It makes them feel comfortable being there.

But yesterday, when I was ready to drop a small, tiny amount on a haircut for the Wild Child, and the woman in the kids store literally.walked.away.mid-conversation. I almost lost it. And I might have let the next person who helped me know it. This store is precious (sort of like Snoozy's minus the fantastic customer service) and in the past I have been helped by nice people, but yesterday...I'm not sure what the deal was.

And I won't even tell you about trying to get internet installed here. You think utilities are a pain at home? You thank your lucky stars when Bubba shows up 2 hours late, smelling of McDonalds and snuff that he is even there and that wonder of all wonders, he fixes your TV, Internet, Phone. While being "mighty nice to ya, ma'am."

But here is something you all might find interesting in light of the recent political trend:
I went to the NHS yesterday. NHS meaning National Health Service. Meaning socialized/government healthcare. Of which we will partake.

First, I was so nervous. I had no idea what to expect. When we signed up, the receptionist was beyond helpful and so nice (there is customer service sometimes!). I made an appointment to see a doctor really for the sole reason of making sure this place seemed safe.

I was able to see a doctor I had heard good things about, but I had to wait a week, which was okay since I wasn't in a hurry. When I got there, you check in, and then when it is your turn a screen beeps and your name scrolls across and says where to go. (I did watch one woman miss her name and when the nurse or doctor had to come out and get her, she pointed rather angrily at the screen. Note to self: listen for beep.) I got my beep, and walked back. We went straight into the doctor's office. Cool. There she is. She doesn't have scales, she looks normal. I check out the room. The paper on the examining table is wrinkled and hasn't been changed. Okay. I'm not getting on it anyway. She pulls out toys for Wiley to play with. Great. So far so good. We start talking, she checks Wiley who has recently developed a cold. Discovers ears, throat are inflammed, and he has a small fever. (I promise I had been checking his fever, and it was non-existent up until then.) "He has a small fever." "Oh, no. What is it?" "38 degrees" [blank stare] "What? What does that mean? In fahrenheit?" "I don't know, normal is 37. We use celsius." "Right. Dorothy we are not in Dr. Bill's office anymore." So, no school today. But I digress.

The thing is, as the doctor herself told me, is that with NHS you are in a hurry. They are packed (didn't seem packed in the waiting room since there were like 5 other people), and you only have 10 minutes to have your say with the doctor. That is a lot of pressure. And then they are talking fast, you are talking fast, you are scribbling notes fast. And then suddenly you are racing out of the door thinking "Oh my goodness, I just took up so much of her time!" Then you realize it was only 10 minutes. And for a second there (more than a second), you think, "I would have liked to have been greeted by a hug from Dr. Bill who wants to know how we've been, what's going on with Wild Child, draws him a train on the tongue depressor, meets you in his office to tell you about your lab results, gives you free samples, sends sweet Bessie in with them, and does not rush you out the door. But alas, we are in another country. Again, I digress.

NHS. We live in a nice area, so I think that the NHS office is then reflective of the area. I can't speak to other places, and honestly we haven't had much happen that requires more than looking at a throat. I have heard that you have to be your own or child's advocate. There are good and bad stories out there. I wish I could say more, but so far we have seen a limited bit of this system.

When we finished, we literally walked out. Didn't pay. Didn't do anything. Bizarre. And that is when I remembered that saying, "You get what you pay for." And I didn't pay anything.

...coming soon: Holiday Decorations (something light and cheery!)

Monday, November 30, 2009

Thanksgiving (in pictures)

We watched the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade!
We ate turkey!
We napped...rather Aunt B did, and Wiley pretended to until he jumped on Aunt B.
We discovered we have an elf...
...on a shelf. His name is Sam.
And most importantly, we had a great time with our family!
Thank y'all so much for coming "across the pond" for Thanksgiving! We had a great time, and miss you already! We love you!

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Gobble, Gobble

happy thanksgiving to you!

i have a turkey breast in the fridge that i am not sure what i am supposed do to about.

i have a pecan pie that wiley stuck dirty pie crust (that he was playing with) in the center and i had to perform a pie graft after realizing his square was much darker and a stranger color than the rest of it.

i have cornbread crumbled and marinating with celery and onion for my grandmother's dressing.

i have 5 sweet potatoes staring at me with their eyes waiting to be boiled and combined with more sugary goodness than should be legal.

i have cans of french green beans, cream of mushroom soup, and french fried onions (imported, thank goodness!) ready to throw together.

i have a recipe for corn pudding that is so good, but i'm just not sure i'm going to get to it.

and i really want some pumpkin bread right now.

but i'm really thankful because i have a 2 sweet boys, one who is working diligently at a desk and one who is working diligently on his cereal and toddler tv. i also have a mom and a dad and a sister who will be in my kitchen very soon.

and who will know what to do with that turkey.
and can mix a casserole.
and peel potatoes.
and maybe even make some corn.
and pumpkin bread.

{that is...after we go to westminster abbey...we are in london, after all!}

what are you thankful for today?

Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever. Psalm 118:1

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

We were those parents...

who had their small child out way past his bedtime...at a huge concert...that was really loud...singing along to...

Taylor Swift!

but let's back it up there before you go saying how children should be in bed and a 3 year old has no business being at a concert.

You see, they go way back. Well, not way back. Maybe just to Portobello Road on a Saturday afternoon.

After Brooke and I snapped a picture with her, Wil and Wiley came so I could get Wiley's picture with her. Wiley loves Taylor Swift. He just started singing her songs in the car this spring and summer, particularly "You Belong to Me." While you can't exactly tell what he is saying, you do hear the words "short skirts" and "t-shirts." (I am that mom who doesn't really have many kids CDs. We like to stick to our country songs, classic oldies, and maybe a little Usher.)

When Wiley came up to her, he said "Hi Taylor Swift. I love your songs."

I think they are discussing music, lyrics, how Wiley would never be like the mean guys she writes about in her songs...you know, the usual.

She asked if she could hold him and of course we said yes!

And while he was too shy to sing one to her...

he was not too shy to give her a kiss.

So. We have had our little 15 minutes of fame. The paparazzi were all around her and snapping pictures. Her bodyguard (wearing a UVA hat) thought Wiley was cute and was actually the one who got Taylor to turn around. After she walked away, a photographer who did not get a good shot I guess asked me if I would send him my pictures. I asked why, and he said "I'll get your kid in a magazine next week in America." "What?" "Yeah, People magazine. He'll be the most popular kid." "Um, I don't think we want him to be in People magazine, but thanks." (Confused look from photographer).

And as if it could not get any more exciting...

Her mom comes back to Wil. Yes. And says that Taylor would love for Wiley to be at the concert on Monday night. Did we have tickets? No. Did we have any plans? Um. Definitely not. How many people will be in Wiley's entourage? 6. So e-mails were given and phone numbers. And Wil continued to joke for the next day about how Taylor really just wanted to go on a date with him.

We hear back from the tour manager that they have 2 tickets, which we ask nicely if they could do 6. And they did. And boy did they come through!

We were sitting on the first row of the side seats, right by the stage. Wiley was able to wave to the guitarist in the band, wave to Taylor, dance in front of us, and lay down on the floor when he was getting tired at the end. The screaming pre-teen girls really left all of our ears ringing. Wil and I felt old when we had to ask who the opening act Justin Bieber was to some young Brits (Who is this? Who? Oh. Is he American?) who assured us that he was relatively new, making us feel a little better.

But that concert. Girl left it all on stage. She rocked that place. She literally gave it everything and I can only imagine that she probably just collapsed at the end of the show. I don't think I have seen that much Girl Power since the Spice Girls. And after seeing T.Swift, I think the Spice Girls version of Girl Power is totally watered down. Plus she doesn't run around in revealing outfits that the 11, 12, 13 year olds who love her would then try to emulate.

And talented? Oh, yes she is.

We had a mild breakdown at the end because Wiley was upset he didn't get to "say goodnight to Taylor Swift." I am pretty sure he thinks she is just another one of his friends, so why wouldn't he be able to give her another hug and say goodbye?

So there it is. We had a wonderful time. Wiley has gone to his first concert. I could go on and on about how great I think Taylor Swift is. But I'll stop here. Hopefully this all fills in the stories and pictures we have been sending yall the past few days!

{pictures from Zimbio and PacificCoastNews.com}
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps. Proverbs 16:9